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Saying "I Love You" in the Mirror

Sounds like a simple task, right?  You wake up. Put one foot on the floor in front of the other. Stumble your way to the bathroom. Do your normal morning bathroom routine after hopefully getting a restful nights sleep. Get to the sink. Look up and there you are face to face with You. Stop and look. Stare if you must. Smile. Then say "I Love You." Listen. Look. Feel.  Ok, let's come back to reality. Most of us would never and have never done that. Saying "I Love You" to yourself in the mirror, no matter what time of the day, would be thought of as crazy, uncomfortable, nonsense, narcissistic, just plain silly. This list can go on and...

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Tips to reduce toxic masculinity

While there’s nothing toxic about needing respect, taking desperate and extreme measures to force what looks like respect (but is actually fear) is a direct result of toxic masculinity.

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Toxic Masculinity

All it takes is for one man to do something negative and it can trigger an entire movement where all men can be cast in the same shadow. It is then very difficult for all other men to prove they are not within this same category or guilty of such claims. Naturally and rightfully so, we condone their negative actions men take and only wish the best for those who have been impacted. We are caring and kind. Men are brave but gentle. We have our own fears and need the right time and space to share. We are witty and fun, gentlemen. We have the desire for all mankind to have love in their life, respect for themselves and each other,...

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Male Positivity

...the change must start inside each of us as individuals before we can expect any change to happen elsewhere. We need to find balance in the things we do each and every day and play the role we know that is right and truly exemplifies you we are as men. Play the roles that you know will do more good in the world, bring light and positivity to yourself and others you are near.

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Blue Monday #bluemonday

If you are wondering what Blue Monday is, well, it is just as it sounds.  Blue meaning depressing, sad, gloomy, or any negative emotional reaction and Monday, the most feared day of the week.  That's a lot of emotions wrapped up into two words, right?    Well, January 17th has been deemed Blue Monday this year on the calendar as by definition, Blue Monday falls on the 3rd (or 4th) Monday of January each year.  We are now well into winter for those of us in the northern hemisphere, and between the gloomy, cold, dark weather and our tight purse strings post the holiday spend and trying to keep our smart goals of 2022 in place, January is bad enough but...

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